Let me clarify something I wrote on last week’s post: “Repetitions I Notice.” This is another thing which affects my Asperger’s mind. I think I made an offensive comment and that I need to clarify it. Maybe I do or maybe I don’t but here goes. On that post, I stated that I like to read “Dear Deidre’s” column in The Sun newspaper because I like to read about people who are sadder than me. There was a time when, like so many people out there, thought those who write into agony aunts (or uncles) are sad because they want everyone in the world to read about their problems, I realize now that it isn’t the case.
Many people write into Deidre (her actual name) and others because they feel that is the only alternative they have. They can not afford a counselor or feel uneasy about talking to someone face to face. The anonymity of writing to someone they don’t know personally is a better alternative than face to face contact. I can surely see and sympathize with that. Even if the letter is printed, no one knows who wrote it except the writer and responder. Therefore, all communication is between those two persons. Someone who does that is not sad in any way. Besides, the volume of letters these agony aunts receive shows that there a lot of people out there feel they need their help.
Last week, I mentioned some repetitions in Dear Deidre’s casebook. The fact that these particular stories have been repeated show that there are real problems out there which affect a lot of people. If I were writing about any of those, I’d feel better knowing I was not alone.
Now, to end on a lighthearted note, there are two one off letter which have stuck in my mind. One, I know why, but not the other. The latter was written by a woman who’s latest boyfriend was white and she had had black boyfriends in the past. He was worried that he wasn’t going to measure up sexually to her previous partners, so she wrote Deidre asking advice on how to deal with it. The other was written by a man who’s all up in a tizzy because his girlfriend wrestles men for cash. Note: she was doing this before they met but he was uncomfortable with it because he thought these men were using her for a cheap thrill.
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